I third the "take the class" suggestion. I just took my 3rd owners class today and am really having a blast. No way would I have known I could do everything we're doing in class!
But - I watched this video (series of videos) before I did my first applique, and it really helped me have confidence to do it. I hope it helps you too.
First vid:
http://www.expertvillage.com/video/13977_stitch-aplica.htmSecond vid:
http://www.expertvillage.com/video/13978_stitch-aplica-two.htmI never would've thought to go backwards/forwards like she did. I was really glad to find this video. I should email her and tell her thanks!!